The UCLA School of Public Policy and Social Research in their November 1999 newletter, The Voice, has provided some suggestions for coping with the stresses that often accompany the holiday season. I thought I would share them with the visitors to our website.
-- Joyce Parker, Ph.D., editor

1. Acknowledge your feelings: If you've recently had a loss in the family or are separated from loved ones, realize that it's normal to feel sadness and grief. It's okay to take time just to express feelings.
2. Seek support: Take advantage of social support. If you're feeling isolated or down, seek out community, religious or social services that can provide you with support and companionship. Staying involved and helping others can be a great way to lift your spirits and make new acquaintances.
3. Be realistic: As families change and grow, traditions may need to change as well. Hold on to those family rituals you still can- a special food or holiday activity- but understand that some traditions, such as everyone gathering at your house, may no longer be possible. In addition, try not to set your expectations too high.
4. Set differences aside: Try to accept family members as they are. Leave old grievances or discussions about differences until a more appropriate time.
5. Budget: Before you go shopping, decide how much money you can afford to spend on gifts and other items, and then stick to your budget. You might also consider giving gifts that can't be bought- your time, sharing of memories, or an item you made yourself.
6. Don't abandon healthful habits: Don't feel pressured to eat or drink more than you're accustomed to just because it's the holiday season. Get plenty of sleep and schedule time for exercise. Not only will exercise help fend off extra pounds, it will help you feel more refreshed and less fatigued.
7. Build your social network: Work on friendships-for emotional support, nothing beats a friend. A friend fulfills your need to care and be cared for.