This quiz is designed to help you recognize signs of being manipulated by someone who makes another person feel guilty, ashamed, confused or weak in order to control their behavior to get what they want from them or a situation. Emotional manipulators believe they must control others' behavior because they feel powerless otherwise.
The person on the receiving end of this type of manipulation, however, suffers serious erosion of their self esteem and confidence, which can negatively affect every aspect of their life.
You can use this quiz to guide your thinking about the behavior of people you have relationships with – an intimate partner, a family member or even your boss.
Answer "Yes" or "No" to each question, then see my remarks following the quiz for help interpreting your results.
EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION QUIZ
Count your "yes" answers. If you have five or more, you could be in a relationship with an emotional manipulator. If you have more than six "yes" answers, I would strongly urge you to focus your attention on examining this relationship further.
It may also mean that your sense of self-worth and self-respect are being undermined. Keep in mind that you always have a choice to take action to improve your experience in your relationships, and in your life. Even if the person in question is not willing to change, there are many ways you can strengthen and rebuild your self-confidence.
For more information about emotional manipulation, see my article, "Feeling Guilty? It May Not Be Your Fault," in the Article of the Month section of this site.
Feel free to contact Dr. Boulware for further information or assistance at 310-374-4173 or visit website www.psychotherapist.net.
Dr. Boulware is a psychotherapist in private practice, with offices in Santa Monica and Redondo Beach. She is a member of the Independent Psychotherapy Network.
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